The things that seems beautiful, inspiring, and life-affirming to me seems ugly, hateful, and ludicrous to most other people. This may be the most painful part of being a sadomasochist; this experience of radical difference, separation at the root of perception. Our culture insists on sexual uniformity and does not acknowledge any neutral differences - only crimes, sins, diseases, and mistakes.
Most of the psychological literature is bent on demonstrating that alternate sexual practices or lifestyles are in some way sick. This is a consequence of the medicalization of psychology. I'm not very happy that psychology is seen as a medical process. It seems to be far more a philosophical issue.
(Miller, Devon, 1995)